Friday, November 6, 2026: A generous Life and Death:

Announcement #1:

Reminder: for Next Sunday's Emmaus Celebration -  November 8, 2026:

Now that we're no longer on Daylight Saving Time the days get shorter and we don't want anyone driving home in the dark. We meet and greet at 1:45 with Liturgy starting at 2:00. 

ANNOUNCEMENT #2

Please Let us know if you're interested:

At one of our recent Sunday liturgy's, JoAnn proposed that anyone who is interested gather to discuss the end of life issues looming on all of our  horizons.  

The education committee would like to partner with her and Jim to host an afternoon to explore some of these topics.  This wouldn't be a formal presentation so much as a conversation to share thoughts—which can be hard to talk about with family—in the supportive and nourishing heart of our community.  

Some subjects to consider are burial options, funeral liturgies, celebration of life receptions, obituary writing, etc.  

To help with our planning, would you please respond to Mary FitzGerald (Emailto: mary@edfitzgerald.com or call Mary at 707-790-7037 

if you think you would attend and indicate whether you prefer to meet  after the holidays in January or some time between now and Christmas.  We will choose a meeting place after we see how many people plan to participate.

Our Meditation: 

Drawing on the wisdom of Henri Nouwen, Father Ron Rolheiser explores the opportunity to give one’s life, and even one’s death, away for the sake of others:  

In one of his last books, Our Greatest Gift: A Meditation on Dying and Caring, Henri Nouwen says that at a certain point in our lives, the question is no longer “What can I still do so that my life makes a contribution?” Rather, it becomes “How can I live now so that my death will be an optimal blessing to my family, my community, and the world?” 

The central question should not be “How much time still remains?” but rather 

“How can I prepare now so that my dying will be a new way for me to leave a warm, nurturing, and blessing spirit behind for those who have loved me and whom I have loved?”  

For Nouwen, this is predicated on the fact that our lives belong not just to us but also to others. 

This is also true of our deaths. If we die with guilt, shame, anger, or bitterness, that will be part of what we leave to the world, and it will burden the lives of our family and friends. If we die unreconciled, in bitterness, most every memory we leave behind will cause unease, pain. And that will be our legacy. 

Conversely, if we die at peace, reconciled with our loved ones and the world, with a warm and grateful heart, then that warmth and love will be the spirit we leave behind, and most every memory of us will bring others warmth so that our dying in peace and reconciliation will then be our last gift—a wonderful, lasting one—to our loved ones. 

Giving our deaths away as a gift to our loved ones means that at some point in our lives, we need to stop focusing on our agenda and begin to focus on our obituary, on what kind of spirit we will leave behind. 

Rolheiser looks to Jesus’s life and death as a model for our own: 

Ultimately, all the invitations in the Gospel can be summarized in one word—“surrender.” Our final human and spiritual task is to let go and, like Jesus in his final act, hand over our spirits in an act of love and trust. But this is also the most difficult task in life….  

Dying is the ultimate surrender in trust, and it besets us un-invited. However, God and nature have arranged that the natural debilitations that come with aging give us lots of practice in letting go, long before our deathbeds…. 

One of our salient spiritual and human tasks as we age is to learn how to let go, how to surrender, so that the spirit we breathe out with our last breath or (ideally) long before our last breath is one that, like Jesus’s last breath, issues forth without bitterness as it says, “Father, into your hands I commend my spirit.”